Men Often Feel Stuck

  • Lynda Savage, M.S., LMFT, LPC
  • Series: Dear Rosa

Once in a while I try to count the men/couples I've worked with in the therapy room over the forty plus years of listening to them share their concerns. The total of men with whom I've spoken privately number in the many hundreds. I have to agree with Barbara Markway, PhD who writes the following:

"Men are in a double-bind when it comes to expressing emotions. Although men may not always know what they're feeling, there's one thing they’re sure about: they’re convinced they’re in a major double bind. Women tell men to express their feelings, but when they do, women are often petrified, if not horrified. Women want men to show their feelings, but only certain feelings, and only in doses they can handle."

Wisdom